Do Some Black Women Just Attract White Men?

I've noticed that not all Black women are approached regularly by White men. Is there a reason for this?

This has never been a problem for me. By no means am I a "ghetto fab" diva but I am an intelligent, strong-willed, beautiful Black female. I'd like to think that in no way do I come across as wanting to be White. Instead, I express the diversity that can exist within the Black population; we are not all ignorant as shown on television.

(As a side note: Black people as a whole have a long history of successes and sheer normalcy. It's unfortunate that the media portrays us as booty shakin', lazy idiots with a culture of bastard children and welfare reliance who sell drugs all while saying, "No you di'n't, girlfriend!" Or, as uber wealthy athletes/athletes' wives embroiled in scandal when our man leaves us for a woman with naturally straighter hair. Where are the middle class Blacks who work hard to give their families hope? We exist!...)

Anyway! I am great at digression so let me try to get back on track.

When I go out, I am always approached by White men. Just this last weekend, I went to a store to buy body wash and a cute White guy sidled up to me and said, "Hey." We had a brief conversation that resulted in my being asked to lunch. Later that same evening at a bar, unfortunately, I was followed around by a guy insisting on buying me a drink and chatting me up even after I broke the news that I would not be going home with him. He was also quite attractive.

But after browsing a few websites, I've noticed that not all Black women who date White men have this kind of experience. Majority of the success stories I've seen come from women who developed a friendship with a White man that eventually turned into dating.

I've also seen comments from White men who are interested in Black women saying that they are never sure how to approach.

Now, I'm sure I don't give off a "WHITE MEN ONLY" vibe, which brings me back to the original question: do some Black women just attract White men?

Is it a look or attitude or something completely intangible?

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By the way, Happy Belated Holiday!

Hi, again!

I know it's been awhile since I've posted and from here on out there will be more regularity.

This, however, will be short.

1.) I forgot my username and password and couldn't log on thereby breaking the ultimate code in start up blogs. I promise to never, ever do that again.

2.) My grandfather died this week so instead of what I really want to post (i.e. recent dating adventures involving me, a BW, and WM,) I am posting something very anti-climactic.

I will address a couple of points/questions that were posted in the comments of my last blog, though.

- I am indeed a Black female. At no point am I attempting to be deceptive and trying to suss out all Black women searching for White men. In other words, I am not a White male in disguise.

- Yes, I did sing the praises of Black men in my last blog because while I choose not to date within my race, I do believe that Black men have a lot to offer. I want the point to be made that I am not a "Black traitor" or that I wish I were White. I don't.

- Not all of my experiences with White males have been terrible. A few of the recent ones have left a sour taste in my mouth but overall I'm not giving up the fight. ;)

So, there you have it. A few responses and a general informational session about me. My hope is that this will be a celebration of interracial relationships (IRs) but from a lesser shown perspective-- that of the Black woman/White male pairing.

Now! Tell me about yourselves.